Is it possible to divorce without hard feelings? In this edition of Divorce Moment, we talk about divorce mediation and how it can help you find common ground with your ex during this difficult period.
Hi, this is Heather Keith from Keith Family Law with another Divorce Moment on the issue of mediation. So in an earlier Divorce Moment, I had discussed the idea that you have options that are not related to litigation. You do not have to go through litigation to get your divorce.
Mediation is another option, and I also mentioned you can go with attorneys. You can go without attorneys. Make sure that your mediator is experienced in family law. You don’t wanna go to just anybody because that gets you halfway across the finish line if your mediator knows what you’re talking about. You’re going to want mediation-friendly attorneys so that they don’t disrupt your deal once you’re done with the mediator, and at the end of the process, you’re going to end up with an agreement. It’s gonna be several pages long. It’s going to take care of all the issues in your divorce. It’s going to take care of custody, child support, all the financial stuff, the support, the division of assets and liabilities and everything like that.
Not everybody is well-suited, however, for mediation. High-conflict people have difficulty in mediation simply because it’s hard for them to be in the same place at the same time and discuss things rationally and calmly, which is kind of necessary in the mediation setting. Successful mediations involve people who are also willing to make a little bit of a compromise because every negotiation involves a little bit of compromise so as long as you are both willing to at least acknowledge the other side and their perspective and reach across the table. If you can’t do that, at least compromise a little bit on some things that you may be feeling dug in on. Then you engender a goodwill atmosphere, a safe atmosphere so that you can talk about the things that you need to talk about and get things done that you need to get done.
It’s a great way for you to tailor your settlement based on the unique circumstances of your case, which a court could never do. And this is Heather Keith from Keith Law Firm with a divorce moment on mediation.