It’s a two-syllable word that carries a whole lot of weight.
Many times it’s the ending of a relationship that was never expected to end – and that can make it really hard to take one of the very first step’s in the process: contacting a divorce lawyer.
One thing is for sure. The divorce process is different for every person that goes through one.
There’s no two alike because there aren’t any two marriages alike. The only thing that all have in common is the finality, so it makes sense to give some careful thought to whether or not you want to take that step.
You’re not sure what your options are
Sometimes when someone is thinking about divorce it can seem like the Wild Wild West when trying to figure out what the outcome is going to be. Maybe you feel like your marriage could still be worked on. Or maybe you think it’s worth staying together for financial reasons. Or maybe you have one of the thousands of reasons people stay with someone when they’re not sure whether or not they’re ready for divorce.
If you’re one of those people, you’re not alone. Sometimes a switch flips and you just know divorce is the only option. More often though, divorce is the result of a slow decline of a relationship and it can be hard to tell when it’s truly over.
It can be helpful to get some professional input on the matter, especially if you’re having mixed feelings. A licensed counselor can help give you a non-judgemental space to work through your feelings and figure out what you want next.
Perhaps your next step will be a marriage counselor if you come to the conclusion that your marriage could still use some work and attention before you’re ready to move on to divorce.
But your next step could also be a divorce lawyer if you’re wondering what impact the divorce would ultimately have. Since every divorce is different, it’s difficult to say what will happen with yours without input from an experienced lawyer.
You’ve known for a while
Maybe you’ve done everything you can.
Maybe you have a partner that’s not willing to participate in the recovery efforts.
Maybe neither of you even have the desire to attempt saving the marriage.
Maybe your spouse has absolutely no idea that you’re even contemplating divorce.
Maybe your spouse has cheated.
Maybe they’re already long gone.
Maybe you’ve already been separated for a while.
Sometimes, you just know. Even if you haven’t said it out loud. You know that divorce is your next step.
But it’s making the call that can be difficult.
Know that divorce lawyers have dealt with a large range of divorce scenarios, and no matter what you’re going through you can trust that you’ll be listened to without judgment. At Keith Family Law, we especially recognize how hard this decision can be and want nothing more than to be there for our clients – we consider our role to be more than simply a “lawyer” just for that reason.
In any of those scenarios it’s important to understand the divorce process in New Jersey, to be cognizant of your legal rights and be well informed as to what you can expect to walk away with. A lawyer can help you figure out a game plan and what next steps to take.
You don’t feel safe
If at any time in your marriage you fear for your safety or that of your children, that’s a very good reason to consider divorce. When it comes to these types of divorces, it’s important to be very thoughtful in the approach. Ultimately, the goal is to secure your safety and help you move on to a more secure chapter in your life.
If you’re not quite ready to speak to a divorce lawyer, there are plenty of resources available who can help you decide what to do next:
- Union County YWCA
- Union County Family Justice Center
- National Domestic Abuse Hotline
- Live Your Dream
- Futures Without Violence
Think it over
Weigh out your options. Do some self-reflecting. Contact a counselor or therapist. Make a pros versus cons list. Think about what you want your future to look like.
If, after you’ve done all that, you decide that the time is right to move forward, give us a call. We can help you step by step, walking you through the process to the next chapter of your life.